Mystery Blogger Award

I want to thanks G.W. of His Eye is on the Sparrow https://collinsgw.com/about-me/  for thinking I deserve an award. via Mystery Blogger Award 

A small acquainting with "what's it about" description of the Mystery Blogger Award:

 "The Mystery Blogger Award is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award also is for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging, and they do it with much love and passion. – Creator- Okoto Enigma"

I’m not much of an award guy but I will take the opportunity to put a link on one of my personal favorite reads from G.W.https://collinsgw.com/2019/03/06/ineffable-power/

I’m also going to use this as a time to post links to some other bloggers that I appreciate for a myriad of reasons (instead of nominating you to do the same). Mostly that they connect with me. For whatever reason, there is a connection. I’m not going to keep the mystery blogger thread going on my part but I will answer the questions given me. First the question and answer time, then some blogger links that you should visit as they are worth the read.

G.W. Asks:

1.What is your favorite pastime ? Me: Fishing (Ice fishing now)Fish (2)

2. What is your favorite book to read ? Why ? Me: The Bible, as it’s the whole story of mankinds redemption and my daily guide to an intimate relationship with My Lord jesus Christ (Who didn’t stay dead after the cross by the way). 2nd would be a good mystery novel.

3. Who do you think will out smart the other the Road Runner or Daffy Duck ? Me: Road Runner

4. What would you be doing on a rainy day ? Me: fishing with my rain gear on and watching for lightening. otherwise I’de be playing keyboard, writing a song or photographing raindrops off the local flora.

5. What is your favorite type of music to listen to ? Me: I like it all except Rap. I do need decent words and a story or message behind it. Deeply felt music is the best.Frost fence 2eml

I will peek through the fence of time (as of right now) and post some bloggers that I have felt connected with in some fashion, all for different reasons. All these bloggers post things that make me want to grow in my walk with the Lord as I age.

Today for example Alan wrote an amazing Blog. I connect with this guy. https://fuelfortheraceblog.wordpress.com/2020/03/06/asteroid-april-29-2020/

Ron encourages me to write more (which I am bad at because I am fishing or working) and always has a short motivational post…good stuff Ron https://theburningheart.com/gold-finches/

Brother Craig is amazing with words. Take the time to look up his story. His pain is our blessing but I would trade it for his wholeness again  https://brocraigblog.wordpress.com/2020/03/01/white-wedding/

Sheqo writes some powerful and well thought out blogs. Check this one out on Who needs Jesus https://sheqoz.com/who-needs-jesus-christ/

Stephanie writes from both pain and growth. She offers great insights https://losthomeblog.wordpress.com/2020/01/25/broken-can-be-beautiful/

Ted Martens helps me be a better public speaker, I have read through some very weighty posts and they are worth spending some pondering time https://rhetoricandhomiletics.org/2020/02/28/rhetoric-homiletics-what-causes-people-to-remember/

Bruce and I could use some camp fire time. We have much to discuss. He had done a life time of study and it shows… https://bcooper.wordpress.com/2020/02/22/negativity/

And Crissy, keep posting heart felt and challenging posts https://livingbyfaith.travel.blog/2020/03/04/memorial-stones/

Looking for a good devotional blog? M Dennis is solid, everytime. https://thosewhosindifferently.com/2020/03/06/what-is-the-standard/

Another devotional plus other good writings from HCCounsels  https://herrychiccounsels.com/2020/02/25/just-a-crack-caution/

 

I could go one for another 20 bloggers who are special to me as well. Thanks people for putting yourself and your time into posting good material. Meanwhile I will keep learning how to write, take pictures and reading your blogs.

Frosty twig eml
Every frost flake counts

Gary

 

Dad Parent, Dad Friend

“Would you be my Dad?”

Father Son

I stared down at this 13 year old asking me to be his dad. He was serious. I scrambled for words that would straighten out his world a little bit and yet not let him down too far. Both parents worked and his dad seemed to either be gone driving truck or home sleeping. I guess I was Bret’s only adult friend.

I have a skill that did not come easy (very quiet and shy through high school). My hard fought and practiced skill is talking to perfect strangers and being their friend, if only for 30 seconds in the grocery store line. I intentionally practice this skill to this day. It’s easier if they are wearing fishing or hunting T-shirt.

Bret wandered by my house several times a day it was not long in saying Hi and smiling. This led him into my garage to help fix the car or hook up the boat and do a lot of talking about Bret. There was a lot bottled up inside this little man and I merely popped the top off the bottle.

I probably knew more about Bret’s interests, friends, hopes and dreams in a few encounters than his parents or siblings. He met our family in the yard over a homemade ice cream cone and I began to bring him home so he would not stay at our house too long. I was beginning to be his parent teaching him values, time management (“time to get home Bret”) and drawing lines (“do you want to become like your friend Jack? I could visit you behind bars on Thursdays!”). Bret was learning how to think and make decisions on a junior high level. I like to think I took off his training wheels in that department.

I have a dad (and mom) who knew how to be Dad as Parent and Dad as friend. The relationship was intentional, planned and well executed from the cradle through college. As time went on Dad and Mom prayed very hard for wisdom beyond what they could muster for all seven of their kids (That is probably why we survived some of our choices). Dad was pure parent until age 12 when he began to take his hands off my decision making steering wheel. I had to begin making choices and be responsible for them. There was plenty of talk time about those little choices and how I would have much bigger ones as I aged. I was responsible for choices and reaped the consequences (good or bad) in chores, handling money, school sports and even developing my own personal quiet time with God.

Over an ice cream cone, I told Bret that as the oldest, his parents were really trying hard to make a home for him and his siblings. When his dad was gone he was man of the house and they needed him to mow the grass, help his mother with the house and maybe make some of his own money mowing the neighbor’s lawns and doing odd jobs for people. I also told him that his dad needed him to be his friend. “Talk to him, find out his hopes and dreams, ask how you can help be the man of the house when he is gone”.

Bret was quiet when I took him home. I suspect Bret made some choices after that day. He did not roam the neighborhood as much. I had turned him down as dad. I suspect good came of this odd friendship as Bret’s mom was driving by one day and stopped at the end of our short drive. “I just have to say thank you for being Bret’s friend”. We moved not long after.

Wherever you are Bret, I hope you have learned how to be a Dad Parent and a Dad Friend to your kids. I also hope you have developed a relationship with the God of the universe like we talked about.

GaryD

A link to my favorite blog about our growing up years “From Whence We Came”